Today I would like to talk about how to help a loved one in a state of depression, to let him feel that he is not alone and that you understand him? There are 5 phrases that are important to be heard.
1.Just know: I’m always around
Having made it clear that you are ready to be there in any situation, you are already supporting. The suffering person realizes how painful, and sometimes burdensome for others, his condition, and begins to close from people. Your words will allow him to feel less lonely and isolated. You can not even say anything – just be there, listen or just keep silent. Your presence will help a person overcome the internal blockade, will make you feel: he is still loved and accepted.
2.What can I do to help you?
People experiencing psychological breakdown are often unable to answer this question. However, your words will help those who are going through a difficult period, listen to themselves, their desires. Even if you are told that he/she don’t need anything, believe me, it was vital for he/she to hear that question. And if a person decides to tell and you listen to him, it will be a huge help for him.
3. I really like you …
At moments of depression, we lose confidence, and often self-respect. And if you make a compliment, pointing out the winning sides and qualities of a person: subtle taste, attention and kindness, features of appearance, this will help him/her to begin to treat himself/herself with great attention and love.
4.Yes, I also think that this is hard and unfair
Deep experiences make a person mentally return to the events that happened again and again, and the environment begins to think that he is exaggerating and it’s a time to pull himself/herself together. In a state of depression, people become hypersensitive, and in order for the person to trust you, it is important to make it clear that you share his/her emotions. You acknowledge that he was treated unfairly, and the circumstances through which he passes are difficult. If a person feels that his bitter feelings are taking, rather than depreciating, he will soon find the strength to move on.
5. I understand you: to me this also happened
If you or one of your relatives passed through similar difficulties of life, tell him about it. Your openness will help a person become franker. More open he talks about how he is tormented, understanding that words find response, the less helpless and lonely he feels. And gradually the situation will begin to be perceived not so hopeless.
Always from all situations there is a way out.