We all need to adjust to the people and situations, but we do need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to face. The “Boiling Frog” syndrome is one of the types of emotional stress associated with difficult situations in life that people can not avoid, they have to endure the circumstances until the end and until they will burn entirely.
German physiologist Friedrich Leopold Goltz published his studies of decerebrated frogs in “Beitrage zur Lehre von den Functionen der Nervencentren des Froschesa” book that is based on the real physcial example:
Put the frog in the vessel of water and heat it gradually. As the temperature of the water rises, she will adjust her body temperature to the water. After few minutes, the frog will not be able to control the temperature of her body and will try to jump out of the boiled water. Unfortunately, the frog has already lost all her strengths and lacks the final impulse to jump out of the vessel. The frog dies in the boiling water.
The frog has lost all the power when trying to adapt to the circumstances and at the critical moment, she could not jump out of the vessel to save her life, because it’s already late.
So, what killed the frog: boiling water or inability to decide when to jump out? Before reading the psychological analysis of Goltz, take a time to think for yourself.
If you put the frog in already boiled water with 50 ºC, she will jump out immediately and remain alive. However, in our case, the frog remains in the water comforting herself to the temperature without realizing that she is in a danger and must jump out.
When something bad is moving toward us very slowly, we often do not notice or pay attention to it. We do not have time to react and instead we breathe the toxic air, which aftermath, poisons us and our lives. When the changes occur slowly, it does not cause any of our reactions.
That’s why we often become victims of the “Boiling Frog” syndrome at work, in the family, in friendly and romantic relationships and even within the framework of society and the state.
Even when dependence, pride and selfish demands go over the edge, it is still difficult for us to understand how destructive their influences can be. We can be pleased that we constantly need our partner, our boss relies on us to entrust us with certain tasks or that our friend needs constant attention. Sooner or later, constant demands effect on our reactions. We waste our strength and ability to acklowedge that it is an unhealthy relationship in reality. This process of silent adaptation gradually takes control over us and enslaves us, which control our lives step by step.
For this reason, it is important to keep your eyes open and appreciate what you really like. You can divert your attention from what weaken your abilities. You can grow only if you are able to experience discomfort. The fact that we defend our rights may not appeal to those around us, as they are accustomed to the fact that we give them all absolutely unselfishly and without the slightest reproach.
Remember that sometimes it’s time to say “enough” to keep emotional balance, learn to respect and love yourself, appreciate your interests and build up your condifence and self-esteem.
You are the one who chooses to sit in the water of your own apathy!